As the title says “Do you appreciate your spouse?” The answer sadly is probably no. However dont be quick to think your a bad partner. The problem maybe unrelated to bad feelings or loss of love.
The problem may be lack of understanding and complacency. We will address this and related issue in this article.
We often after a period of time let things fall into a norm. We fail to recognize things our partner does for us and family. It becomes “expected.” In the early days of our relationship these little things were noted and we often thanked our partner for them. After a period of time they were expected and in fact if not done we may be angry. Learn to thank your partner for what they do for you and others. This will make your partner feel important and likely see him/her continue or even do more! Your partner does these things because he/she wants to please you not because he/she loves doing the dishes or whatever applies. Just because its become the norm does not mean it should be ignored! Learn to thank your partner and make note you know they did not have to do the chore or whatever applies. When you do this both of you will feel better and that will only empower a stronger relationship.
Lack of Understanding:
We often fail to understand or even try to understand what our partner does. He/she may have spent entire day busy only to do more at home! Did we note that or ignore it? Now to be fair if we are not with our partner all day we hardly know what they did. However did you make mental note on what they did once you did see them? If we did we might say WOW! I had no clue I gave them no time for them self or thanked them for what they did! Here is a simple test you can do and the results will very likely surprise you. Track your partners day. Write down what they did for how long this includes sleep etc etc. See how much actual free time they had. Also make note of times you or other family members interfered or interrupted this free time. You will likely find they had little.
The simple solution is to learn to appreciate your partner and react with positive feedback. It will make your relationship stronger.