Are currently with the partner of your dreams or did you settle? Chances are you are not. Do not be discouraged as most of not all of us are not with a dream partner and its no ones fault. Well except maybe our own.
Yes thats right no matter how happy you are there is a very good chance this is not the person you dreamed about or visioned as your perfect mate or dream partner. The gender of either or sexual preference plays no real role in this either. When questioned most couples admit their current partner is not the type of person they felt would be their ideal partner before. In fact what they had likely envisioned is far removed from what they have now. This does not mean the couple are unhappy though. Let me tell a short story to illustrate.
Long before I met my current wife I was married before. Prior to my meeting this woman I had pictured my “Dream girl”. I had not dreamed about a certain look but sought out other qualities in this perfect (so I thought) woman. She would be a bit of a sex maniac (I know typical male I agree). She would enjoy all the things I did bowling, baseball, amusement parks, movies and more. She would respect fact I did not drink and was recovering alcoholic. She would want children. The woman I met (again not current wife) was all this. She was eager to please me and be pleased in bed. In fact we had sex over 60 times that first month alone. She joined my bowling league, we watched baseball together, went to theme parks etc etc. She had children from previous marriage and had no issue with more (we had three during our marriage). I soon fell and we were living together within a few months. Her other children were scattered about (she had three) the youngest came to live with us. Everything was perfect for a while. Slowly things changed. She had a mental illness (as did some of her children not ours) As her illness grew things got ugly. There was abuse and violence, there was cheating and eventually Divorce. My “Dream girl” was more like a nightmare. So what went wrong? Let go back to the present and look.
The problem we all face is we don’t really know what we want nor do we think it through. We find ourselves so stuck on the physical or focused on just a few areas we ignore signs of problems. Had I looked closer I would have seen trouble long before. We don’t know what we want and rarely do. Not only that when we get what we want we find out there are consequences or related actions we had not planned on. Why? Simple because we focused on our wants so much we ignored possible pitfalls. Not only that we excluded potential partners because of our incorrect goals towards perfect mate. My advice don’t look for your “dream” partner look for someone you can share things with and grow with. Look at all those wish movies when a person is granted a wish. It always works out that when the wish is granted there was a consequence that was not expected. There are no “Dream partners” out there waiting. However there are potential partners who can grow with you and become that “Dream”. My current wife and I have been together nearly two decades and have had some rocky times. However we grew together and have become each others “dream”. Look for a partner you can grow with not one you feel is already your dream partner because they are likely NOT!