This article is intended to give a viewpoint on what the authors feels is the “Collapse of parenting” the opinions expressed are the authors and you are free to disagree and/or voice your take on write in our forum section (Parentnook forums)
I want to talk about the collapse of parenting and what I feel is a big part of that happening, First let me explain why I even say this. If you watch the new or read a paper more and more we see our young people engaged in crimes and disrespect for others and authority. There is a clear picture that our children are slipping away. Why is this? Good question and I feel I may have some of those answers. Back in the 50’s, 60’s and even 70’s (some) this didn’t really happen.Parenting was easier and children listened more. Childhood heroes or entertainers were wholesome and strove to do right thing. they also honored and obey their parents. Ozzie and Harriet, Father Knows Best, The Brady Bunch etc all stood for honest values and doing the right thing. So what happened and how did it get this bad? I see two issues both related. Lets look at what I feel are huge part of the problem.
Stripping parents of their ability to parent:
Yes I said it. We have taken parenting out of the hands of the parent and allowed Government (financed by special interests) to tell parents how to parent. Example back in 50’s it was not unusual for a parent to “spank” their child. (now i refer to open hand on clothed buttocks no paddles belts etc) Then in the 60’s Dr. Spock wrote his book that said how spanking was wrong and harmful. Funny if that was so we can presume he did not spank. His own son took his own life! Regardless of that evidence since then shows rise in juvenile crime. could be lack of deterrent or fear for a child to do wrong? Then we had schools and other agencies interfering in parents parenting. We (parents) were now being told how to raise our children instead of doing what had worked for a very long time. We are no longer parents but tools to be used by Government and special interests who think they know better. We know how that turned out. We have more crimes committed by juveniles than ever before! So how is this stripping parents of ability to parent working? Its not! Parents know how to parent they have done so for ages without being controlled by anyone and everything was fine. Remember when kids could play in the street and come home when street lights came on? Funny thing they did too. Its time to give parents back the ability to parent their child!
Giving children too much power:
We (Government and special interests) have given our children too much power! I agree that hitting a child with paddle, switch etc is wrong and harmful but we went too far fixing this. Now anytime a child doesn’t like what he/she is being told to do they can threaten parents with contacting Children’s Services! If you dont think they use this tool your wrong! furthermore schools, Tv etc encourage children to report abuse. Now real abuse yes, but that isnt whats happening. A child is fed a peanut butter sandwich and someone feels child is being starved so they get visit from Children’s services. There are countless examples and some workers even take sides with children who really just need to listen to Mom and Dad. Parents no longer hold the power the children do! What happens when you give a person still maturing too much power? They abuse it. Parents need the power back as the mature persons with time and experience to fall back on to make good choices. Children today do whatever they want and the results are frightening. Lets look at some scary examples. Columbine, the Dark Knight shooting to name two. Both committed by young persons. Give the power back to the parents and let them stand up to their children to help them down the right path for success.
We need to reveres e the trend in power and let parents be parents. Have our Government and their special interests funders stay out! Our children did better when parents parented without interference from outside agencies. Our children did better when they listened and respected their parents rather than think they know better on limited or no background or experience. Lets let parents be parents!