Often times we wonder “what happened to us?” Its a reasonable question and by time you ask this it might be too late. Maintaining a longer relationship is tough. Many times its because we forgot how we got where we are. In this write up we will discuss things long term couples sometimes forget and this can have negative impact on your relationship.
Impress your partner:
When we first starting seeing our partner we always tried to impress him/her. After a while we stop, why? Good question. There is no need not to continue to impress our partner. Is it necessary (guys) to lay around in a torn T shirt and boxer shorts and dirty? Ladies do you have to wear baggy sweats and oversized T shirt with uncombed hair? No one says get all dolled up but really did either of you do this in beginning? If you had would relationship have grown? Once more no one is suggesting you spend hours getting ready to lay around the house but there is no reason to not look good and impress your partner. If my partner is laying around house watching TV she tends to wear things I like and are VERY comfortable. She could wear almost anything but mostly does this to impress me. When you do this your telling your partner you still care and still want to look your best for him/her. This is all sexes not just one. Guys you can shave and comb your hair and look decent. Ladies you too can comb your hair and find comfortable clothes that still show your man how lucky he is.
Say I Love You:
Yes after a while your partner should know and probably does. That does not mean they don’t want to hear it. Hearing someone you care about say “I love you” gives both parties a very warm good feeling inside. So what if they should know or do its nice to hear. Do you talk on phone once in a while? If so end conversation with “I love you” its simple and very meaningful.
You should always kiss your partner goodbye and goodnight. Its nice shows you care and what if (heaven forbid) its last time you see your partner? You should add the above “I love you” too. Kisses are very important to any relationship and should not stop because you have been together for some time now. Kisses do not have to mean sex its just a form of intimacy and means to show someone you care. Did you not kiss goodbye when dating? So why stop after dating? Answer there is no reason.
Yes I said play and I dont mean sexually although thats fine too. When you dated you probably shared common interests. So why did it stop? Find time to play. Did you enjoy camping, bowling, tennis etc? Then go play get that back. Its likely a big reason you fell for each other is because you were not just lovers but friends and shared in “funtimes”. Dont forge to play. It could be at home with cards or board games or something you need to go out for just do it. When you do your relationship will get stronger. you might even see your sex life improve (more later)
Romance does not have to stop once you are wed or in long term relationship. You can still send flowers, romantic texts, leave love notes for each other etc. Do you get home before your partner? Why not have a romantic dinner waiting when he/she comes home? Perhaps you can stop at store on why home and buy a small gift. This action as the aforementioned show your partner you care and was likely part of your relationship early on before you got into a routine and these things were forgotten.
Yes sex! Sex tends to become secondary as relationship continues. There are countless reasons and/or excuses but if you both enjoy it why has it slowed or stopped? There is no answer. Yes your days are busy now and your not young and full of lust as you use to be. However you still want each other. Sex is the ultimate form of expression of love. Make time for sex! too tired at night then start earlier! Have a quickie. Have some spontaneous sex! Spontaneous has a great impact on both parties even if its quick. Have a “date night” make sure there is time for sex. By the way sex itself does not have to happen. You can tease or engage in foreplay even without having sex. the goal here is to strengthen your relationship. If this foreplay or sex play doe snot end in a climax its fine it will only encourage more play that will lead to sex. The goal here is to gain what you lost or forgot. Tie some of these together. Send a naughty text. Make a sexy video for your partner. Make time for sex or sex play your relationship will improve. Not only that but there are health benefits to sex as well some of which are weight lost, immune system, pain management, mood enhancer and, more.
Ok we gave you a lot to think about but none of this is something you have not already done. Make the above fit into your relationship. Your just getting back what you lost or forgot about. Once you start this your might find yourselves acting like kids again on their first date. The love is already there it just got buried under life and the stresses and issues that come with it. Its just a matter of getting out s shovel and digging it up