We all have those weeks or even months when all we want is to sleep. It has nothing to do with not wanting your partner sexually, your just too damn tired. However studies show again and again that a decrease in sexual activity in any relationship (where sex already exist)is harmful to the relationships stability. It can provoke or even cause infidelity as well as cause emotional issues and distrust between the couple. If we needed to add more it also dampens ones mood making them “grumpy”. The problem is still there though, how do you maintain a healthy consistent sex life when your too tired to move? Sex experts agree that the couple must find a way around this in order to maintain a healthy relationship. Couples having less sex tend to argue more! The following were offered as possible solutions to this issues that wont have them falling asleep at work.
Set your alarm a little earlier, maybe 15 minutes or so, and have a quickie. Earlier if you want more intense sex. You are well rested and might even perform better. It does not have to end in orgasm for both of you. Your setting a new trend and that will come later if not now. The partner who did not get theirs should get his/hers first next time. Its about regaining that closeness sex brings more than the orgasm that will come. Do you wake up in middle of night? Heres a chance for a quickie as well.
You should have a “Date Night”. It doesn’t have to be late maybe just dinner and/or a movie but get home early enough for sex. Restart the fire that use to burn in you for each other. Be playful during date just like when you first dated. You will be surprised how much of a turn on for both of you this will be. Make sure the night ends with some kind of sexual playtime
Cyber or phone sex:
Got some time at lunch? Then call or Skype your partner for some phone or cyber sex. Its not the same as actual sex but its about regaining closeness and passion for each other.
Got time for a afternoon hookup? Then have a nooner! They fun and exciting for all parties.
When does your partner shower? Join him or her in shower. Shower sex can be really fun and it doesn’t require additional time since you or are already in shower. In fact you can clean each other up after and save time on additional showers. You might even get to bed earlier and catch up on some sleep.
Change your routine:
Do you have dinner later? Then move up meal time. By doing so its not as late when your ready to settle down for day. You now have more time for sex. If you move dinner up by an hour you now have an additional hour at night for play. You also might have more energy since its earlier in night now.
Grope each other:
Ok its not sex but it still provides that sexual closeness you both crave. It also puts you in the mood.
Turn off the TV:
Yes turn off the TV or take it out of bedroom. In these days of TIVO and DVRs you can watch your favorite program at any time. Besides how much are you enjoying the show if your falling asleep? Turn off TV and turn on your partner! Use that time now for passion! After all whats more important Game of Thrones or your relationship?
The side effect of the above is it will renew your lust for each other and you will make more time for each other. You will get along better, be a better worker and basically be a happier you and couple. Try this for one month you wont be sorry.
Its worth mentioning we did not discuss how often you should have sex. Its not the number the number we are worried about its lack of what your use to. Example if you use to sex 4 to 5 times a week and its gone down to 1 or 2 then the goal is to get close to 4 or 5 but not necessarily 4 or 5 again 3 to 4 is reasonable more is great but not goal. Your goal is to find each other again not become sex machines. Find a frequency your happy with that is your goal. Its worth stating that older couples should not set goals one or both cannot achieve. Anywhere from 1 to 4 times a week is great! Set a goal around 2 or 3 and go from there.
If your reading this then you should take the bull by the horn and start today! You need not tell your partner (unless you wish to) just watch him/her get excited about renewing your sex life and your relationship!